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Motivation and positive relationships

Research from the University of Rochester has shown that people who do something for a partner,

such as going out of their way or making a sacrifice for them, because they wanted to and not because they felt obligated or coerced to, were more satisfied and committed to their ?other half? and felt closer to them following the ?pro-relationship behaviour compared to those who acted from pressure to do so.  Researchers also found that perceiving that a partner is engaging in pro-relationship behaviour because they wanted to, increases satisfaction and commitment. 

This research fits into the self determination theory of motivation - explained elsewhere on our website -which states that there are different types of motivation: amotivation ? not motivated at all, extrinsic motivation ? doing something as a result of external pressures and forces (this has four different levels) and intrinsic motivation ? doing something because one loves to do it i.e. the activity is carried out as an end in itself.  According to self-determination theory intrinsic motivation is the most rewarding and beneficial for overall well-being.  ?A self-motivated person derives more satisfaction in completing a given task, and is more likely to do it well.?  This research highlights that intrinsic motivation and perceived intrinsic motivation has significant positive effects on relationships. To read more about this click here

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